Ways to Assist a Victim of Narcissistic Abuse Part 1: Exactly what To Do

This video is for those who are aiming to assistance a victim of conceited abuse. In this very first video I let you understand exactly what to do. The next video has to do with exactly what not to do. These are my ideas to assist you support your buddy, cousin, brother or sister, partner, moms and dad, kid or whomever in your life is being abused. These ideas use to the mental abuse. Call emergency situation services if somebody’s life is in risk. , if you understand somebody who might benefit from this video please share it!


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  1. Pathless Land on October 11, 2016 at 5:47 am

    This is wonderful. Thank you for this. ?

  2. Galia Sapozhnikov on October 11, 2016 at 5:47 am

    i love you meredith, and im still trying to figure out how to make that appointment happen

  3. Brad McEwen on October 11, 2016 at 5:47 am

    An absolutley empowering vlog. I've already forwarded it to a dear friend. Thanks for reminding us how to help others as well as ourselves. One of the best ever.

  4. Ozzy Gonzalez on October 11, 2016 at 5:47 am

    Mind fuck.. exact description.

  5. sun bear on October 11, 2016 at 5:47 am


  6. laughs a lot on October 11, 2016 at 5:47 am

    Great video. Maybe make a shorter version of this and make sure you also include the viewer. Idk. I guess I was just expecting you to include the viewer not just a cousin or a friend. I have been looking for some advice on how to get out so I could share. Anyway thank you for your help. Prayers going out to you. God bless you and keep you safe. XO!!

  7. Kymythy Schultze on October 11, 2016 at 5:47 am

    I would love to send this type of info to some friends that really don't understand and you're a very good speaker. Unfortunately, I don't know anyone that would spend this amount of time with the video. Please make a shorter version!

  8. Savvy Sabby on October 11, 2016 at 5:47 am

    Is there a way to interject in the moment when you witness your friend being the victim of narcissistic head games? I feel like I'm not doing anything to help by not intervening, but my concern is in my interjections causing more of an escalation after I go.

  9. TA Roberts on October 11, 2016 at 5:47 am

    Thank you for this message!!!

  10. Yuz Lopez on October 11, 2016 at 5:47 am

    como me gustaria que este video estuviera traducido al español o que lo hagas en español. Gracias!

  11. usmc2076 on October 11, 2016 at 5:47 am

    My current wife is a narcissist….its a nightmare.

  12. dannygoldwynmusic on October 11, 2016 at 5:47 am

    i have no words to thank you appropriate for your kindness sharing your thoughts with us!
    you're really helpful for me to learn more about this matter and handling cruical situations
    … and that makes it (i deeply hope it!) helpful for her!

  13. Troy Carpenter on October 11, 2016 at 5:47 am

    Part of the way a Narcissist can confuse a normal person, is that they break protocol. Normal people don't place a lot of mental energy on common sense that they decided was true, almost without question, at a very young age. Most normal people are aware of ego and that nobody likes to admit they're wrong, but what most normal people don't realize is that there are people who take it further than that. A Narcissist is not just holding out because of a defensive ego. They are actively determined to do and say anything they can to get everything they want, without giving an inch, and with zero regard for the true fairness, or how it's making you feel (in fact they get off on it if it makes them feel superior). One example of common sense most normal people know almost intuitively, is that if you're making love to someone, you don't just up and desert them for months without explanation, just because you have better things to do. For a Narcissist, I might have to dig deep and explain why when they enter a relationship that they're partially responsible for their partner's feelings, and just because they have things they'd rather be doing, maybe their partner doesn't. This is all common sense, so I won't go into depth. This is where the Narcissist will get us confused. They will introduce an idea that will make us second guess what we always presumed to be true. They will even look at us like we're a little crazy. I think this is intentional. For example, when they up and desert you, they may calmly point out that they are their own person, with their own life, and that they have every right to spend time with other friends. They might even say things like, "I know it's you're feelings, and I can't argue about how this makes you feel." They will muddy the water, by pointing out why their freedom is fair given the dynamics of the relationship. They might try to twist things to make it appear that you're being somewhat unfair or have an advantage. When you're emotional and not expecting this calm, rational sounding, well thought out garbage, you don't see what's wrong with it at first. You might second guess yourself and even apologize. Keep in mind, right or wrong, you being upset or troubled is reason enough for them to compromise some, especially if they're ridiculously out of line. Anyway, after the argument, the victim will still not be satisfied. You might take the time to reflect on the conversation, and realize that you had been duped by a psychological sucker punch. When you attempt to confront them again, they might show distain, they might point out that you promised not to bring it up again (when normal people feel guilty, we commonly make such promises), and they will even say things like, "You're starting to push me away!" My advice is to expect the unexpected. They are arguing for no other reason than to get what they want. They probably already planned out their argument before they even started the abuse. Expect that you will be emotional when they talk with you. Last, expect that they will introduce a new way of seeing something that most of us never question. Your gut will feel that it doesn't sound fair, but your desire to be fair will challenge your open mindedness. Once a person puts you through this crazy smoke screen, just cut ties. Don't explain anything to them, they already know what they were doing. Make sure you did bring up compromise and note how they gave you the silent treatment instead of answering your questions etc. You do this so that later if they hoover and whine, you can point out that you covered all the bases from your end, and now you have nothing more to talk about. Expect Christmas cards, and goody two shoes comments. Also expect to be baited. They will say things that they know will set you off. This is to make you look like the bad guy. For example if they know you're already mad at them for deserting you, they night say something like, "Are you sure everything is alright? You seem like you don't want to see me." Be prepared to be baited whenever he or she has someone else around. I hope this helps someone. Don't allow them to confuse you. Once you're confused, emotional, and second guessing, the Narcissist owns you. Take some time to really think about the situation. Decide if your complaint is valid or not, and act accordingly.

  14. Trancemutator on October 11, 2016 at 5:47 am

    Sort of off the topic but sort of relevant, Steve Hassen book Freedom of Mind, and Bounded Choice by Janja Lalich and good book for dealing with controlling people, cults, and groups.

  15. Kathleen Smith on October 11, 2016 at 5:47 am

    Please know that the information you are giving us is invaluable. As I am in and will be completely recovering from a narcissistic relationship. The tip that you gave that was essential to recovery was to get rid of EVERYTHING!!! yes, that means everything! I had saved 2 cards and his very sexy sunglasses he wore with much pride, the house key he said he had only given to me. really lol. At the moment I took them out of the house..placed them in the garbage and breathed out freedom the "ghost" was gone. I was no longer going to feed on the pain and memories that were good. I cannot thank you enough for your videos. I am sure it helping the recovery process for many. The ghost was taken out of the house, cell phone pictures and memory card. They must be removed and as I say exorcised. Blessing to you and thank you.

  16. Ms Chapman on October 11, 2016 at 5:47 am

    Very helpful video, thank you.

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