Narcissist: Why Self-help?

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This is the very first and, without a doubt, the most crucial action on the method to dealing with the condition: will the narcissist confess, be required, or encouraged to yield that he is definitely and unconditionally incorrect, that something is really awry in his life, that he requires immediate, expert, assistance which, in the lack of such assistance, things will just become worse? Having actually crossed this Rubicon, the narcissist is more open and open to useful recommendations and support.

When the narcissist starts to challenge a more PRACTICAL variation of himself, the 2nd crucial leap forward is. A buddy, a partner, a therapist, a moms and dad, or a mix of these individuals can choose not to team up with the narcissist’s confabulations any longer, to stop fearing the narcissist and not to acquiesce in his recklessness any longer.

They assist destroy the grand phantom that “runs” the narcissist when they challenge the narcissist with the reality about himself. They not catch his impulses or accord him an unique treatment. When required, they reprimand him. They disagree with him and reveal him why and where he is incorrect. In other words: they deny him of much of his sources of Conceited Supply. They choose not to participate in the intricate video game that is the narcissist. They rebel.

( From the book “Malignant Self-love: Narcissism Revisited” by Sam Vaknin – Click this connect to acquire the print book, or 16 e-books, or 2 DVDs with 12 hours of video lectures on narcissists, psychopaths, and abuse in relationships:


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  1. tara queen on January 4, 2018 at 9:04 pm

    The Narcissist I know has an endless supply from ex wives and partners he has a brilliant ability to manipulate therapists he has been to even his dr jumps to his tune

  2. Mark D on January 4, 2018 at 9:04 pm

    Personally I would never go to therapy since I have no problem with being how I am.

  3. Muntelevenus on January 4, 2018 at 9:04 pm

    Your research is such an eye opener

  4. joanofarc33 on January 4, 2018 at 9:04 pm

    This Sam Vaknin not only help reinforce my leaving a long relationship. His videos actually helped me get out and stay out.

  5. Matt Thew on January 4, 2018 at 9:04 pm
  6. Joshua Torres on January 4, 2018 at 9:04 pm

    Really liked your video!

  7. New Worldorder on January 4, 2018 at 9:04 pm

    I'm a Co dependant I know this is the reverse side of the narcisist coin. I've had the childhood trauma which leads to concious and unconcious trying to seek love and aproval. I've caught my self doing it. I've always feared being a narcisist in a big way. Probably because these are the traits of my parents. Then I married a covert cerebal narcisist got idealist devalued and discarded now have to live with him, Now I think I'm definately up there on the N scale and need help with that and Co dependancy and my avoidance trying to fix this in its self stops me feeling authentic for fear of doing something wrong. Re parenting is what I've discovered recently by facing my codependancy. Micro routines I really needed micro routines! Feelings of being stuck. True self love and being there for yourself my inner child I'd never thought of my gut feeling that way…I'm learning slowly thanks to these videos and videos like this. I've tred to self help all my adult life. I have always looked this stuff up. Ironically all that researching ends up making me sound more like a narcisist in counciling! I'm struggling with the contradiction of that. Sam Vaknin has been a great teacher. Thank you.

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